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| Daid Aston |
FAMILIES of victims of pervert David Aston have described their hatred for the driving instructor who bribed their daughters into satisfying his "bizarre" sexual predilections.
Driving instructor Aston, 32, is facing jail after an Oxford Crown Court jury found Aston, of Bell Close, Cassington, guilty of two counts of sexual activity with a child and four of causing or enticing a child to engage in sexual activity.
The married father-of-two met one of the girls in an Internet chatroom and told her he had starred in videos for websites catering for people who liked being kicked.
The court heard Aston twice stripped naked from the waist downwards, crouched on all fours on a towel in woodland near Bicester and encouraged four girls to kick him in the groin until he could no longer handle the pain.
One mother, who cannot be named, said she felt sick when a police officer arrived on her doorstep and told her what had happened.
The 37-year-old said: "If she had kicked me to the ground and beaten me to a pulp I could not have felt any worse.
"I was gutted, devastated and angry.
"Even now I have never felt such hatred for a person in my life.
"Listening to her give evidence broke my heart."
She said her daughter, who is now 16, was suffering depression partly as a result of what had happened.
The girl's grandmother, 58, said: "What I feel about him is not printable. I would describe him as a predator.
"I want to follow him for the rest of his life so people are aware he is a menace to young girls.
"It was the hardest thing I have ever had to listen to.
"Having to sit there and listen to her describe it.
"It was heartbreaking really, she looked so young and vulnerable.
"She looked so child-like - how could he have mistaken her for anything other than what she was?"
The mother of another of the girls said she found out what had happened when her then 13-year-old daughter told her later the same night.
The 36-year-old said: "I am annoyed, disgusted.
"I don't believe an adult could do something like that. You hear about these things but you never think they are going to happen to you.
"I hope he gets what he deserves."
The girl's father added he would to see the so-called "Sarah's Law" introduced to give parents the right to know the identity of paedophiles living in their community.
He said: "It has been very hard for me to be rubbing shoulders with this man during the trial.
"I would like him to be put in a room with all the parents for a couple of hours.
"I am not going to say throw away the key but at the end of the day I hope he has learned something from this."
Thames Valley Police Det Con Nikki Smith said: "This case has taken two years to come to a conclusion.
"The victims and their families were extremely patient during the investigation and have behaved in an honourable manner throughout the trial.
"I would like to praise the young victims who were brave in coming forward to report the incident and who were co-operative and honest during the investigation so something like this would not happen to another innocent teenager.
"The man befriended the victims on a chatroom that is mostly used by teenagers and encouraged them to meet him by offering money and alcohol.
"This case has again highlighted how the Internet can make teenagers, like the ones in this case, vulnerable at the hands of adults who do not have their best intentions in mind."
10:47am Saturday 17th May 2008
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CommentPosted by: A Mother, Witney on 11:33am Sat 17 May 08
And what of the girls who made themselves out to be older than they were?
WHY are 13 yr old CHILDREN allowed to be using chatrooms and luring men?
This is not a one-sided thing. Entrapment has been shown on BOTH sides.
Perhaps the parents would like to take more responsiblity for their children, and monitor their actions over the internet.
This man is a disgusting pervert without a doubt ... but those girls are not the innocent victims because they willingly went to meet him knowing they were underage and putting themselves at risk! Let alone doing as he bid for money.
Shame on them too. And I am speaking as the mother of a 13yr old girl who DOES know what she gets up on the family computer.
And what of the girls who made themselves out to be older than they were?
WHY are 13 yr old CHILDREN allowed to be using chatrooms and luring men?
This is not a one-sided thing. Entrapment has been shown on BOTH sides.
Perhaps the parents would like to take more responsiblity for their children, and monitor their actions over the internet.
This man is a disgusting pervert without a doubt ... but those girls are not the innocent victims because they willingly went to meet him knowing they were underage and putting themselves at risk! Let alone doing as he bid for money.
Shame on them too. And I am speaking as the mother of a 13yr old girl who DOES know what she gets up on the family computer.
Posted by: Anon, Witney on 2:09pm Sat 17 May 08
I agree with the mother from Witney about the teenage girls and their parents. I was a teenager once and you know when things are wrong and you know exactley what you are doing, i.e. drinking, smoking. I am not denying that he was very wrong and that he is a pervert but the girls did go back more than once. So let this be a lesson, we should all as parents, think about our teenagers with the internet and perverts.
I agree with the mother from Witney about the teenage girls and their parents. I was a teenager once and you know when things are wrong and you know exactley what you are doing, i.e. drinking, smoking. I am not denying that he was very wrong and that he is a pervert but the girls did go back more than once. So let this be a lesson, we should all as parents, think about our teenagers with the internet and perverts.
Posted by: anon, oxford on 5:10pm Sat 17 May 08
I agree with the above one hundred per cent-these girls obviously knew what there were doing -the guy is a total perv but these girls are nothing but slags I'm afraid and will probably be pregnant by the age of 16
I agree with the above one hundred per cent-these girls obviously knew what there were doing -the guy is a total perv but these girls are nothing but slags I'm afraid and will probably be pregnant by the age of 16
Posted by: parent of one of the girls on 5:16pm Sat 17 May 08
i will not defend myself as a parent, i know the facts surrounding the case, and how this came about..my daughter was not an instigator in this happening,she went along once, not both times, but being loyal to her friends, as you are at that age, got mixed up in something that she didn't know was going to happen until she got there.the only thing going through his head at that time, was sexual..not his family, his children, his wife, who knew nothing of this, not his parents, his job, his friends, this was about him getting sexual gratification..he lied from the offset and tried to cover his tracks taking no responsibility, the girls admitted what they did and saw it through to the end, despite knowing they would get a hard time about it...as a parent, i have questioned myself if any other measures could have been put in place, i thought i was doing everything to stop something like this happening, No computer in bedrooms, i do monitor who my kids talk to, but didn't see this one coming,.in by 9pm on the weekend, which she was by the way when this happened..she wasn't then and isn't now, a stereotypical teenager girls, yes she likes to look nice when she is out, why shouldn't she, shes a young girl, everyone talks about drinking and smoking, my daughter had not been drinking, i'll assume she was smoking as i have never witnessed her doing it, but accept she may have been doing so.. i too had to luxury once of thinking i knew everything about my daughter and what she was doing, and i sincerely hope you never experience anything like this, i've been questioned about what more i could of done, well i know hand on heart, nothing more...my daughter learnt a very hard lesson that day but he derserves to get punished.
i will not defend myself as a parent, i know the facts surrounding the case, and how this came about..my daughter was not an instigator in this happening,she went along once, not both times, but being loyal to her friends, as you are at that age, got mixed up in something that she didn't know was going to happen until she got there.the only thing going through his head at that time, was sexual..not his family, his children, his wife, who knew nothing of this, not his parents, his job, his friends, this was about him getting sexual gratification..he lied from the offset and tried to cover his tracks taking no responsibility, the girls admitted what they did and saw it through to the end, despite knowing they would get a hard time about it...as a parent, i have questioned myself if any other measures could have been put in place, i thought i was doing everything to stop something like this happening, No computer in bedrooms, i do monitor who my kids talk to, but didn't see this one coming,.in by 9pm on the weekend, which she was by the way when this happened..she wasn't then and isn't now, a stereotypical teenager girls, yes she likes to look nice when she is out, why shouldn't she, shes a young girl, everyone talks about drinking and smoking, my daughter had not been drinking, i'll assume she was smoking as i have never witnessed her doing it, but accept she may have been doing so.. i too had to luxury once of thinking i knew everything about my daughter and what she was doing, and i sincerely hope you never experience anything like this, i've been questioned about what more i could of done, well i know hand on heart, nothing more...my daughter learnt a very hard lesson that day but he derserves to get punished.
Posted by: Anon, Abingdon on 6:45pm Sat 17 May 08
He sent me messages on faceparty asking me to kick him in the goolies...offered £30 cash and more, I replied thinking it was a wind-up, then he responded and wouldn't leave me alone!!
He still keeps checking his faceparty profile now!
He sent me messages on faceparty asking me to kick him in the goolies...offered £30 cash and more, I replied thinking it was a wind-up, then he responded and wouldn't leave me alone!!
He still keeps checking his faceparty profile now!
Posted by: simon, out there... on 10:28am Sun 18 May 08
Well, i suspect the parents of ALL involved must be proud. I'm sure the slapp..'kids' involved they were 'only supplementing their pocket money'- easier work than doing a 'proper job'. I really despair that people can be so stupid. The whole situation could have ended a LOT worse than some ****/perve being only interested than being kicked in the nuts by some silly little girls. Obviously common sense left those involved many moons ago.
Well, i suspect the parents of ALL involved must be proud. I'm sure the slapp..'kids' involved they were 'only supplementing their pocket money'- easier work than doing a 'proper job'. I really despair that people can be so stupid. The whole situation could have ended a LOT worse than some ****/perve being only interested than being kicked in the nuts by some silly little girls. Obviously common sense left those involved many moons ago.
Posted by: A Mother, Witney on 11:10am Sun 18 May 08
[quote]The married father-of-two met one of the girls in an Internet chatroom and told her he had starred in videos for websites catering for people who liked being kicked.[/quote]
So from that comment I can only presume that none of the parents have been checking the sites their children use, or investigating sites they use to see who they are talking to?
And what makes a 13 yr old CHILD decide that it is appropriate to not only chat to ADULTS in chatrooms, but to meet them when they have already told them they are interested in them sxually?
And what kind of screwed up society do we have when KIDS are allowed to get away with pretending they are of consensual age?
The book should be thrown well and truly at the parents as well as the children - they think they are adult enough to play these games, they are old enough to also be prosecuted IMO.
The married father-of-two met one of the girls in an Internet chatroom and told her he had starred in videos for websites catering for people who liked being kicked.
So from that comment I can only presume that none of the parents have been checking the sites their children use, or investigating sites they use to see who they are talking to?
And what makes a 13 yr old CHILD decide that it is appropriate to not only chat to ADULTS in chatrooms, but to meet them when they have already told them they are interested in them sxually?
And what kind of screwed up society do we have when KIDS are allowed to get away with pretending they are of consensual age?
The book should be thrown well and truly at the parents as well as the children - they think they are adult enough to play these games, they are old enough to also be prosecuted IMO.
Posted by: Another mother, oxford on 9:33pm Sun 18 May 08
Surely social services should be envolved with the families of these girls now to make sure they actually look after their children ?!!!!
Surely social services should be envolved with the families of these girls now to make sure they actually look after their children ?!!!!
Posted by: Anon, Abingdon on 9:46pm Sun 18 May 08
It is not possible to keep tabs on children's internet use all the time...Having been a child myself, I found ways of getting around it. Although I wouldn't have gone the same route these girls have, what you have to remember is that they are still CHILDREN. No doubt young, naive, very impressionable, little girls. Yes they are wrong, but he is more wrong than they are. The parents are not completely to blame, and in fact carry far less blame than the girls involved, or Mr Aston, who is the reason the girls were in this situation in the first place!!!
He is in his 30s, and should know better. If he has a weird fetish, that is his problem, but he should have stuck to adult only sites with age verification. When I was 13/14 I used to say I was 16/17/18 in chat rooms, because I could get away with it....Its what some young kids do. Same as kids lying about their age and buying cigarettes and alcohol underage etc.
Hopefully this now means they will be much more careful about who they speak to in the future, and their parents will monitor them much more.
Even when he contacted me to ask me to kick him for cash, I was tempted, and I'm old enough to know better! So get off your soap boxes.
It is not possible to keep tabs on children's internet use all the time...Having been a child myself, I found ways of getting around it. Although I wouldn't have gone the same route these girls have, what you have to remember is that they are still CHILDREN. No doubt young, naive, very impressionable, little girls. Yes they are wrong, but he is more wrong than they are. The parents are not completely to blame, and in fact carry far less blame than the girls involved, or Mr Aston, who is the reason the girls were in this situation in the first place!!!
He is in his 30s, and should know better. If he has a weird fetish, that is his problem, but he should have stuck to adult only sites with age verification. When I was 13/14 I used to say I was 16/17/18 in chat rooms, because I could get away with it....Its what some young kids do. Same as kids lying about their age and buying cigarettes and alcohol underage etc.
Hopefully this now means they will be much more careful about who they speak to in the future, and their parents will monitor them much more.
Even when he contacted me to ask me to kick him for cash, I was tempted, and I'm old enough to know better! So get off your soap boxes.
Posted by: One of the girls, Oxfordshire on 10:51pm Sun 18 May 08
well after reading the above comments i would just like to say thankyou for being so quick to judge me over this case.. yes it was wrong what happened and yes i admit that everyone has a part to play in this, but what you need to realise is that not all of us were on the chatroom me being one of them, and at that age you always tend to give in to peer pressure because if your mates were doing something then you wouldnt want to be left out. I know this will probably cause a reaction but how this story has been portrayed is exactly how it is, and to the person above i am now 16 and i am not pregnant and for you to call me a slag when you don't even know me is just the sterotypical attitude i would expect from a 12 year old but i guess society is still shallow as what it has always been, yes you will never find out who i am but still that means you have no right to judge me, i know people are entitled to their opinions and i respect that but some of you are going a bit too far with what you are saying. I cannot change the past as much as i would want to so i hope your family NEVER has to go through what my family has for the past two years i wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy, i hope you can realise it.
well after reading the above comments i would just like to say thankyou for being so quick to judge me over this case.. yes it was wrong what happened and yes i admit that everyone has a part to play in this, but what you need to realise is that not all of us were on the chatroom me being one of them, and at that age you always tend to give in to peer pressure because if your mates were doing something then you wouldnt want to be left out. I know this will probably cause a reaction but how this story has been portrayed is exactly how it is, and to the person above i am now 16 and i am not pregnant and for you to call me a slag when you don't even know me is just the sterotypical attitude i would expect from a 12 year old but i guess society is still shallow as what it has always been, yes you will never find out who i am but still that means you have no right to judge me, i know people are entitled to their opinions and i respect that but some of you are going a bit too far with what you are saying. I cannot change the past as much as i would want to so i hope your family NEVER has to go through what my family has for the past two years i wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy, i hope you can realise it.
Posted by: parent of one of the girls, bicester on 11:58pm Sun 18 May 08
one of the parents you very quick to judge. i got three other girls none of them ever been in trouble we not have a disfunktunal home life or any other problems you night want to dream up. for the internet ' i do know what they up to' this did not happen on our comp. only one of the girls comunicated with him over that and my daughter went along cos her freind did not wanted to go by herself. they did not think somthing like that was going to take place. yes you can call them silly and naive and any none sex predetor would have walked away as soon as they saw them. and lets not forget 12 people who did not know them thought that he would have been blatently aware that they where under age. the girls which came forwart with this where so brave and i am proud of them not only puting up with hell for 2years but also to stand by this as we prepared them that some people will come out with nasty comments . we encouraged them so no other parent will have to lissen to what my daughter had to tell me- it breaks you, think you done all mesures to protect them and still it happened and you could not protect them. the girls will get on with their life now but don't think they can ever forget. i don't wish this on anyone.
one of the parents you very quick to judge. i got three other girls none of them ever been in trouble we not have a disfunktunal home life or any other problems you night want to dream up. for the internet ' i do know what they up to' this did not happen on our comp. only one of the girls comunicated with him over that and my daughter went along cos her freind did not wanted to go by herself. they did not think somthing like that was going to take place. yes you can call them silly and naive and any none sex predetor would have walked away as soon as they saw them. and lets not forget 12 people who did not know them thought that he would have been blatently aware that they where under age. the girls which came forwart with this where so brave and i am proud of them not only puting up with hell for 2years but also to stand by this as we prepared them that some people will come out with nasty comments . we encouraged them so no other parent will have to lissen to what my daughter had to tell me- it breaks you, think you done all mesures to protect them and still it happened and you could not protect them. the girls will get on with their life now but don't think they can ever forget. i don't wish this on anyone.
Posted by: carl, oxon on 12:04pm Mon 19 May 08
You have to only see the spelling mistakes in some of these comments to see the general standard of education by the adults !!![bold]bold[/bold]
You have to only see the spelling mistakes in some of these comments to see the general standard of education by the adults !!!
Posted by: Anon, Oxford on 4:12pm Mon 19 May 08
Fair play to the people involved for speaking up. Ignore the weirdos on this website - most of them are pervs themselves.
Fair play to the people involved for speaking up. Ignore the weirdos on this website - most of them are pervs themselves.
Posted by: Anon, Abingdon on 10:39pm Mon 19 May 08
Carl, what does spelling have to do with anything?
Not being able to spell some words does not make ANYONE a bad parent. How very childish of you to assume so.
And to "one of the girls" fair play to you for posting on here and standing up for yourself. I don't know where you got that I said you were pregnant? Or even made any reference to a pregnancy?
Carl, what does spelling have to do with anything?
Not being able to spell some words does not make ANYONE a bad parent. How very childish of you to assume so.
And to "one of the girls" fair play to you for posting on here and standing up for yourself. I don't know where you got that I said you were pregnant? Or even made any reference to a pregnancy?
Posted by: one of the parents, bicester on 8:38am Tue 20 May 08
first of all thanks Anon for the support with my spelling and the other coment.
And CARL my girl are english and their dad but i'm not. i actuly speak 3 languages and got 15 gcse's all A-C and i am dislexic and i still studdy and work so what is your education and what would it have to do with this, this could happen to enyone or you think this kind of predetors target only low standart education families. get real.
first of all thanks Anon for the support with my spelling and the other coment.
And CARL my girl are english and their dad but i'm not. i actuly speak 3 languages and got 15 gcse's all A-C and i am dislexic and i still studdy and work so what is your education and what would it have to do with this, this could happen to enyone or you think this kind of predetors target only low standart education families. get real.
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